Joan Crawford was a popular actress during the middle of the 20th century. Not long after her death her oldest daughter Christina wrote the book Mommie Dearest describing her mother’s alcoholism, rages, and abuse. After its publication Christina was publicly vilified for tarnishing her mother’s reputation, and accused of making it up for purposes of revenge. The outcry contributed to the near-fatal stroke Christina suffered a few years after the publication of the book. Some years later however Christine Ann Lawson wrote Understanding the Borderline Mother, where she references Christina Crawford and the plight of children of mothers with borderline personality disorder. Not being believed can be one of the most painful and confusing parts of having an abusive mother. While child abuse in general tends to be minimized and ignored, maternal abuse is most often discounted, and its victims, for years abused in private, are now abused in public. It seems the notion of “motherhood and apple pie” is essential to our collective sense of the proper order of things. Alas some survivors of maternal abuse grow up to be abusers themselves. Those who don’t are proof that miracles still happen, and we should recognize them as such.